For a long time — like many of us — I saw social media vehicles as a place to advance conversations, to do some good by engaging with different perspectives.
And I — like many — discovered the superfluous that is arguing perspectives on sites like Facebook.
What I personally decided was that Facebook etiquette should be like real-life social norms. That’s to say, since I’m connected with friends, family, business associates, acquaintances and strangers, I should treat the forum of social media as if I were in pubic. In public, I don’t make hyperbolic claims against any group. In public, I don’t disparage or defame. In public, I’m largely positive.
I consider myself a leader in my industry. I consider myself a role model to many. And as such, if I make a statement about someone, I would want to make it as if they might be in earshot listening.
When you’re on a site like Facebook, it’s like you’re in the room with a thousand friends and anyone of them at any time could over hear your conversation. The way Facebook works, your network is way larger than your friend list. At any time, a friend of a friend could see your conversation and jump in on something you’ve written.
All people on social media should consider behaving like they would in so-called real life.
I imagine blogs are a little different, because people have a choice to visit them in a different way. But on Facebook, sometimes it’s not your choice to see or hear something that would be okay to some but completely offensive to others.
In real life public, if someone said something incendiary or insensitive, the group would point out the behavior as rude, or even socially handicapped. But on Facebook, there are no chorus of people shunning stupid behavior.
My entire point is to recommend listening to this clip of Chamath Palihapitiya speaking about social media, his regrets of being behind the origins of Facebook, and his thoughts/regrets about it now.
Here’s a quick quote (taken directly from Stan at TYWKIWDBI):
“I think we have created tools that are ripping apart the social fabric of how society works. The short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops we’ve created are destroying how society works. No civil discourse, no cooperation; misinformation, mistruth. You are being programmed”
For the section in general, start at minute 21:20 and listen for about 5 minutes.