“Researchers found that people who ate nuts roughly every day were 20 percent less likely to die than those who never ate nuts.”
Inspiring Heather Dorniden Takes a Fall But Still Wins the Race in 2008 Big 10 Indoor Track Championships. Inspiring Women’s 600 meter run, Runner Heather Dorniden falls down during the race and wins at the end. Never Give Up!
If we’re not friends on Facebook, you haven’t been able to follow along my traVlogs showing our trip to celebrate my 40th birthday.
I finally figured out how to share the videos here. This one below is the last one I shared. I’ll add another post soon with previous episodes.
If nothing else, check out the drone footage toward the end of a calanque we hiked to.
Mind you, I read all positive responses to Hillary kicking Donald’s ass cynically. But this Vox assessment flittered my flatters in a tingly way:
The third and final presidential debate has ended, and it can now be said: Hillary Clinton crushed Donald Trump in the most effective series of debate performances in modern political history.
The polling tells the story. As Nate Silver notes, on the eve of the first presidential debate, Clinton led by 1.5 points. Before the second, she was up by 5.6 points. Before the third, she was winning by 7.1 points. And now, writing after the third debate — a debate in which Trump said he would keep the nation “in suspense” about whether there would be a peaceful transition of power, bragged about not apologizing to his wife, and called Clinton “such a nasty woman” — it’s clear that Trump did himself no favors. Early polls also suggest Clinton won.
Perhaps my favorite strategy:
It began in the first debate. “Donald,” she kept saying. No one quite knows why Trump so loathes the sound of his first name, but he does. He quickly tried to shame Clinton into showing him more respect. “Secretary Clinton — yes, is that okay?” he said, after she once again called him Donald. “Good. I want you to be very happy. It’s very important to me.”
Clinton’s next answer: “In fact, Donald was one of the people who rooted for the housing crisis…”
This news of the reporter and camera man shot in Virginia is destroying me.
Out of morbid curiosity, I watched the footage from the camera man and from the shooter. Unseeing/unhearing it is impossible. The shock, hurt, anger and confusion is heavy on my mind, like it’s wading through a mire.
Tina and I often interview people in a similar fashion (Tina’s not on camera like a reporter, though), and I can’t help but put ourselves in their shoes or visualize myself as them. When we’re doing that kind of work, we’re all about the moment and certain blinders prevent us from noticing a lot of periphery information.
I didn’t know these two people, but I can only begin to imagine the broken hearts, the pain, the tears of so many who loved these two dearly. As well as so many disappointed and appalled by the shooter’s actions.
I don’t entirely regret watching the videos. If you watch the one recorded by the shooter, he readjusts his camera zoom as he’s walking up. If that’s not proof that he’s entirely cognizant of his intention and goal, there should be no discussion of this man’s sanity.
Although, the word is he’s now dead.
From what I heard about the 20-some page manifesto he faxed to the station, he was upset by the way he was treated at work. He cited details regarding racial tension in his workplace.
And maybe, if I interpret this correctly, maybe these two people — the reporter and/or the camera man — were guilty, or purportedly guilty of what he saw as poor treatment in the workplace.
And maybe, if you stretch your imagination, can you empathize with the shooter for feeling like he was somehow mistreated, racially or personally.
It’s the violence that’s pathetic. It’s not dealing with the situation with tact and appeal. Has it come to this bullshit that the only way to be heard is to fire a gun?
I hate violence, and a lot of the news of different shootings in the past few years and even in my neighborhood have caused me to attempt a certain heightened awareness of my surroundings when walking my neighborhood. It’s likely futile. How do you see what’s happening behind you.
Should I constantly spin while walking?
Another thing that’s completely appalling to me are all the people who say they’re praying for the victims, their families and those involved.
Who is that helping?
Where were the prayers before that prevented this shit? Who are you praying to and who feels better when they say that stuff? It’s not the victims or their families and friends. They’re fucking miserable right now.
Who is the god that is prayed to that knew this was going to happen and was powerless to intercept this shooter? What all-powerful god is this who is incapable of destroying the evil in the world? This fucker can create a universe in a week, but he can’t stop an angry man with a gun from shooting two people in cold blood while doing their life’s work? While doing their art?
If that’s what prayers are for, or to, I don’t want anything to do with it, and don’t understand EVER why anyone would.
My birthday is coming up. My one wish, as I blow out my candles, will be for people — unless it’s with a camera — to stop shooting other people.
I’m almost 40. This September I cross that age threshold. That makes 20 years of non-belief.
My level of non-belief ebbed and flowed for a long time before I finally came out of that closet and eventually started this blog. During my closeted years, I searched for liberal views that were more accepting of my completely changed view of “god”. I tried to embrace different euphemism. That’s to say, when I said god, I meant me. When I prayed, it was to the universe, to nothingness, because sometimes that’s all that hears our hopes.
Why am I writing all this?
I don’t know.
Creatively, I feel like I’m producing more work than I ever have in my entire career. Not only is it more work, the quality of work has never reached this level. I feel I have so much more to learn. But I’ve also never felt like the work I’ve done in the past ever meant a good god damn.
But as an artist, I have never been as deathly afraid to share my work as I do now. When I share work now, it’s forced. I’m marketing, because, well, if I don’t, my business may suffer.
A few months ago, two different clients criticized some of my work and double-handedly created a sense of insecurity in my head that I can not shake.
I haven’t blogged in goddamn forever. I know. Not here anyway.
Between business, a decline in blogging motivation, and that WordPress now requires that I pay an annual fee to house digital media, I felt the need to back off of blogging at Le Café.
I miss you guys. I miss you all a lot. This blog had reached hit counts of over 30,000 to 35,000 per month.
This blog descended from one defined by my expression of non-religious beliefs to one centered around my day-to-day work and art, which caused a rift between loyal readership to a drastically declined one. This was something I did to alleviate the stresses I started to feel regarding my conservative-Christian family.
I chose family over fans. Morally, you’d think that was the right choice.
You’d think that, wouldn’t you?
My family reads this blog — or at least used to — and I came to a conclusion that blogging about atheism created a larger rift between my family and me.
So I dialed it back. Way back. And then stopped.
I stopped to encourage a healthier, more productive relationship with my family. And at times, it seems to work. Other times, not so much.
Before all of the blog changes, I stopped any direct atheistic or liberal expression Facebook. I even told my family that it was the reason for backing off. I hoped it would encourage a reciprocated effort. It hasn’t.
Oddly enough, with certain family members, I feel it’s worse. And there’s a part of me that wants badly to divorce myself from the entirety of all that. It hurts too badly to continue, and I am finding myself somewhat close to what’s termed as one’s “wit’s end.”
I stopped believing around twenty years old. I don’t think I’m right about atheism. But I don’t think religious people are right either. Atheism is the closest mindset that reflects my views.
If you need someone to criticize atheism, give me few hundred thousand words and I’ll give you a great breakdown.
And that’s the same for religion.
But I can write a zillion words to back either up. Either. That’s the rub. I can defend religion just as well as I did as a teen. Why? Because I get it. At least I think I do.
Again, why am I writing this?
I’m at my wit’s end for sure.
Another reason: last week I heard a raucous out front of my condo. We’re on the third floor, and when I looked outside there was a police cruiser, an ambulance and a fire truck.
A group of people were out front, and one of them was my next-door neighbor Natalie. “I’m going to go down and see what’s up,” I called out to Tina. “Natalie’s out there, too. Just curious what’s up.”
When I exited my front door, I saw my neighbor with other folks just in front of our fence and neighbor’s fence to the south.
At first, I thought they were looking at something across the street. When I got closer, though, I could see paramedics were surrounding a man lying down on the sidewalk. Seconds later, one of the paramedics started chest compressions on the man. Another group of paramedics were wheeling a gurney from the ambulance to the sidewalk.
There were some six or seven people attending to man.
Once they got him on the gurney and into the ambulance, my neighbor and another man informed me that they had discovered the man slumped in front of the fence, and that when Natalie — a nurse — felt for a pulse, she could feel a faint one. Then she felt nothing. Seconds later, the paramedics came.
They took over.
The man died on the sidewalk. He was in in his fifties. Looked a little over weight. Gray hair. A dirty t-shirt and shorts.
He lived with two dogs in a building two doors down. I had never seen him before.
He died on the sidewalk.
Right in front of my building. Wait, right in front of me.
Seeing this certainly sparked thoughts of mortality. Of revisiting the ideas of heaven and hell, of afterlife. It caused me to review my perception that none of that exists. It caused question.
I think about religion — and my place outside of it — more than any other topic.
And the questions did not overwhelm my view that neither exist. And that doesn’t depress me.
What depresses me is that it’s this kind of thinking that might cause division between my beloved family, my loved ones, my life.
But I have to be okay with it. Right?
I mean, I feel much more at home in the thought that this life is it. That’s all. And soaking up the experience takes priority, rather than the idea that I’ll have eternity to cherish my loved ones.
It creates a wildly oppressive fear of not being an all-around decent person when hanging out with my believing family. It means that I stuff back thoughts and ideas for the sake of the whole. But damn does it hurt when those types of values aren’t reciprocated.
Who me? Officiate a wedding? What the fuck.
One validating moment, though, was two weeks ago. I photographer friend asked to visit with Tina and me. He’s soon to be married. Usually when these kinds of things means you are going to read or stand up.
But the request for for Tina and I to officiate the wedding. Tina, because she represents spirituality for the bride. And me, because i represent skepticism for the groom.
My views have become much more private. And I feel it’s hurting me. Or at least part of me.
But it feels so damn good to be appreciated for my views. This is the highest honor. Marriage is so important to me. It’s the best thing about life and I wish I would have married much younger. Much sooner.
This scenario deserves a stupid metaphor. My life is a game of poker. Sometimes it’s a shitty hand. Sometimes it’s a royal flush. And it’s sometimes everything in between.
I’m up when I’m in my element here in Chicago; doing my art, cooking for Tina, being a husband, a friend to many, and an asshole to others.
And that’s worth everything to me.
Being a photographer is an interesting business.
There are very few other professions in which your friends, colleagues, family and clients are all looking over your shoulder at what you do, how you do it and the path you’re taking.
Imagine if people posted copies of a legal deposition onto Facebook hoping for hundreds of likes.
Imagine if a teacher posted her lesson plans.
Or a mechanic posted a list of cars he worked on today.
But I can look back over the year and formulate a timeline of not only my output photographs but I have photos of me doing my craft. I have documentation in ways that most people don’t. The above photo is from a test Tina and I did back in 2012. It’s so weird to see how far I’ve come and the trajectory that I’m in.
It’s images like this that give me a bit of pause, but also a reference point. I imagine a person who cleans homes doesn’t have this kind of visual documentation of the homes they’ve worked in.
The path to becoming a rockstar photographer is high on my inspiration board. The more, let’s say, celebrity a photographer becomes, the more value to his work and creativity for hire.
Insert a photo of me looking at other photographers’ work.
In my relationship with Tina, I don’t find myself to be a jealous person. But one of the biggest demons I fight is looking at other people’s work and fighting off jealousy in highly emotional and nauseating ways.
I hate other photographers who post too much. Or they post stuff that makes them out to be better than their work. And then I grow insecure and think, “Others must hate that about me.” Or, “I’m probably a shittier photographer than I make myself out to be.”
I saw this fStoppers article this morning of a list that B&H Photo in New York put together of 14 influential photographers from 2014. My first response is, “Damn! When do I get to be on that list?”
I get it. I’m not good enough yet. I haven’t found the celebrity status within the community that these guys have. And that keeps me out.
I look at some of these photographers and I realize they’re working another full-time gig doing self promotion. Or they have other people doing it.
And that kind of thing makes me jealous as well. I want their status, and I want more hours in my day to do it.
How about a 2015 todo list to get this year started right.
So I’m going to make a list of things I hope to do in 2015 to land my name in the echelons of photographic celebrity.
- Hire other photographers often to collaborate with on large projects.
- Do more personal projects
- Volunteer my time to schools and mentorship
- Hire more interns to mentor and help our workflow.
- Focus on Interiors and portraits, in motion and still, instead of taking almost any job that presents itself.
- Encourage the photographers whom I become jealous of.
- Take aim at undaunted creativity, searching for growth opportunities
- Get my portfolio professionally printed and reviewed by others.
Let’s see how this 8-thing list does when we reach December 2015.