The candle-lighting ceremony is getting brighter and brighter.

I have been struck by all the liberal voices rising from fellow graduates of my ultra conservative twelve grade school.

My class graduated 27 students. I’m not sure it broke the 50 student mark for many years. I think it does now.

But at the time, all 27 of us professed a devotion to fighting liberal values, to opposing secularism in all its forms, to being vocal advocates for evangelical conservative thought.

It was the modus operandi of the school. And we marched off the stage with our diplomas and tassels with proud fists clinched in the name of Jesus H. Christ.

It always struck me how history classes back then would bash nazism and Hitler for its push to attract school-age children so that when they grew up, they’d be mindlessly anti-Semitic. It would be all they knew. There wasn’t a shred of irony casting a shadow over teaching that concept all whilst pummeling our heads with conservative ideas desperately hoping they’d stick. That we’d infiltrate our communities as leaders, preachers and politicians, armed to the teeth with confidence in anti-evolution, anti-secular, pro-religious battle tactics.

We were proudly abstinence only, anti-gay, anti-secularism, anti-humanism, anti-atheist and anti-science. Six day creationists. “If God is all powerful, he could have done any thing written in the Bible.”

So we were literalists.

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Texas Abortion Opponents To Cheer Selves Up With Execution

From a reliable source:

AUSTIN, TX—Following state senator Wendy Davis’ successful filibuster of sweeping abortion restrictions last night, disappointed Texans told reporters they are looking forward to tonight’s scheduled execution of convicted murderer Kimberly McCarthy to cheer them back up. “I was completely devastated after learning that abortion providers throughout the state would remain open, but thankfully, there’s nothing better to lift up our spirits than an old-fashioned execution,” said Fort Worth anti-abortion activist Caroline Hinton, who added that the impending lethal injection of McCarthy was “more than enough” to put a smile back on her face.

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Great news! Rep. Joe Walsh lands his photo right next to the word dumbass in the dictionary

“With modern technology and science, you can’t find one instance. There is no such exception as life of the mother, and as far as health of the mother, same thing.”

– Teapartying Congressman Joe Walsh

I’m losing track of what reason this is for why I can’t find a republican to vote for.

Here’s how the story was discussed at the Daily What (reblog alert!)

Illinois Republican Rep. Joe Walsh is under fire for comments he made Thursday night in his final debate against Democrat Tammy Duckworth — he said he opposes abortion “without exception,”even when the life of the mother is at stake.

The trouble came when the Tea Partier doubled down on his position with the media afterward:

“There’s no such exception as life of the mother. And as far as health of the mother, same thing, with advances in science and technology, health of the mother has become a tool for abortions anytime under any reason.”The facts Walsh used to justify his position have been proven absolutely false. In fact, studies show that pregnancy-related deaths for women are on the rise.


PZ Myers sings a blues hit


“You have to have moral values.” I agree. I truly wish Bubba Carpenter had some.

It’s not just coathangers. Poor women will also use clorox, turpentine, quinine, misoprostol, and back-alley butchers. They’ll bleed out, they’ll have perforated bowels, they’ll suffer unbearable agony, they’ll die. These are “moral values” at work. And note that he even acknowledges the other inequity: if they’re wealthy enough to go out of state (read: Republican), they won’t have to worry about the coathanger. This is open warfare on both women and the poor.

PZ Myers, in response to this jag off.

More here.

Cynical-C sings the hits


I wish they would focus on the rights and liberties of the already born victims.

– Blogger Cynical C In response to a post titled: SC health plan would not pay for abortions involving rape, incest under new proposalEspecially this quote:

“We’re focusing on the rights and the liberty of an unborn child, and I can’t understand why the life of a child that’s a victim ought to be terminated,”

Crap, I missed the whole part about adoption on the previous abortion post

For the record (regarding the below post about abortion), I missed the part of the Glenn Beck Newsletter about adoption. Apparently I had to scroll down. I was so caught up in the abortion link and reading that, I didn’t go back to the Glenn Beck page.

Here’s what the delBlazo said about adoption:

If anyone is encouraging you to surrender your baby to adoption, please contact us by phone or email us. Our volunteers have experienced adoption in their own lives, and they can tell you what it feels like to be adopted or surrender your own child. We’ll also help you find the support you need to keep your baby – the best thing for both of you!

Don’t let anyone tell you that adoption is the “right choice” or the “loving option” for your baby. YOU are the only mother or father your baby has, and no one will be able to take your place in his or her life. People who try to convince you to surrender your baby are probably in a position to get something out of the adoption for themselves – either money or your child himself.

Other people may tell you that you’ll be “giving a wonderful gift” to an infertile couple – this is NOT your responsibility. Your only job is to be the best mom or dad you can be for your baby. Your child isn’t going to want or accept any substitute for the real thing!

So obviously I need to re-think what I wrote.

But I can say, it was weird to hear Mitt Romney in a presidential debate bring up the “business of adoption.” I mentioned it in my review.

My parents tell me that they didn’t pay anything for my adoption. Which is great.

But this website says that it’s between $5,000 and $40,000. I have a friend raising money to adopt a Chinese baby, and it’s in the range of $28,000-$30,000, and their doing it under the tax-free protection of their church. So maybe they are saving a buck or two.

So, yeah, there may be a price involved.

One thing is for sure, delBlazo uses incendiary language every chance she gets.

I can’t fault delBlazo for trying to help mothers make the decision to keep their babies if they can.

Gosh, I know my birth mother had a hell of a time making her decision to give me up. And there are times when it was tough growing up and not having a biological connection to my family.

But holy hell, in comparison to where I would be now if I weren’t adopted, there’s no contest. I certainly had more opportunities than I ever would have. My little biological brother went through the wringer with his mom and dad (my birth mom — not birth dad).

It all comes down to this … when there are decisions that are huge, there are ambiguous answers. It’s like having relationship issues. Everybody has relationship issues, but there isn’t a person in the world you’re going to get the same advice from.

There’s no way to predict the future. My situation could have been different.

While I don’t envy my little half-brother’s life, he turned out okay. He’s got a beautiful wife, and a child. He learned from his parents mistakes. He doesn’t drink or do drugs (that I know of). He’s a good kid.

Dealing with these things is hard. And people need all the information that they can find.

So I apologize for missing the part about adoption.

Shame on delBlazo for demonizing adoption. DelBlazo needs a bit of a tongue lashing and to revisit the language she uses.

We all do.

Shame on anyone to make any decision — where people’s emotions and feelings are well on the line — harder.


Another abortion discussion

Yesterday, I got an email from someone asking me to take a look at this article spotted in a Glenn Beck newsletter “The Blaze“. The person admitted that he knows I don’t like Glenn Beck, but to take a look anyway at the article about adoption.

I scanned the newsletter and found the headline that read:

“I Love Abortion” : Pro-Choice Activist Argues Against Adoption

Wow, right! Someone “loves” abortion? Pro-Choice Activist Argues Against Adoption? Wow wow wow.

That’s some brazen language. Imagine if you were a conservative and you saw that, you’d be enraged!

So I read what the newsletter wrote:

LifeNews has uncovered a real doozy when it comes to abortion rights activism. On a website titled “RH Reality Check” (with the “RH” standing for “Reproductive Health”), progressive writer Jessica delBalzo has a headline that is sure to bring precisely zero surprise to many pro-life activists, but may also scandalize moderate pro-choicers. The headline reads, “I Love Abortion: Implying Otherwise Accomplishes Nothing for Womens’ Rights.”

Whoa! Jessica delBalzo is a jerk! Right?

To the Blaze’s credit, it includes three paragraphs of the whole thing and links to the piece. You can read it here.

So I read delBalzo’s ovum-powered piece and ended up agreeing with the premise. The idea she conveyed to me was that she’s had enough of the pejorative language about abortion, and that she’s going to go so far as to say she loves abortion for the sheer fact that women who make that choice stop the feelings of guilt and shame that religious people attach to this procedure.

The other thing about the article is that there’s not one mention of adoption. Not one. She doesn’t make a case for or against it.

I wrote a long email back to the person who sent me this article, and I attempted as much as I could to avoid sounding like a Hitler piece of shit. I’m not going to bore you with the entire thing.

I’m not for abortion, but I’m for those rights.

Man, this topic is tough.


Then I stubbed my toe on the response I was looking for

Can we agree that the majority of those who hate abortion are religious? Most of them qualify as evangelical Christians. These same people believe that their God is the all-powerful, creator of the Universe. This is just a portion of what I wrote in my email response:

[I]f God is in control — as you’re sure He is — than this issue isn’t up to you. Not me. It’s between a woman and God. No more. No less.

Just like everything that you consider a sin is between you and God.

For me, my sins are between the person, people, or whomever I’ve sinned against. And I do not tolerate people who shove my sins in my face, as I do a handy dandy job of raking myself and my sins through the coals on my own. You may empathize with that.

Life is too short for this shit.

I love you. I love that you’re passionate. And I hope that we can either agree to disagree on this one or maybe you’ll agree that it’s not up to us.

Should God be all powerful, I believe God has every right to shut abortion down — on his own — in his own way. Let Him be in command. Practice what you preach.

Humanity doesn’t have to take every issue they think their God wants — based on no biblical passage — and make it so.

Why does God need humans — with all their flaws and sinful ways — telling other people what is and what isn’t right. God should have every opportunity to make his point known, and yet he’s unusually quiet on this subject.

Lost faith and using the trump card

Delivering this email helped me remember why it is I lost faith. It also allowed me to use the faith-based trump card in reverse. How often have Christians shut down a conversation because they drop God into conversation to give them the upper hand?

The church taught me that God is ALL POWERFUL. He’s wonderful. He’s a counselor. He’s a mighty God. Perfect. Just.

I’ve written often that God’s book had every opportunity to cover the issues that are fought over today, slavery, abortion, homosexuality, marriage etc. And except for homosexuality, God didn’t practice any foresight when addressing those issues, which — we argue — renders the homosexual issue obsolete as well. God also had a brilliant opportunity to teach humanity about germs, instead of demons, but he didn’t. I call that a failure of following through on all the things church leadership taught me.

If God is truly all-powerful, religious intervention is superfluous. If God is so wonderful and just, let Him take control. Let Him show the way. If He hated abortion, let him shut it down.

In the meantime, dear Christian readers, add this to the list of hypocrisies that make Christianity appear unsavory, unwelcoming, and petty.

When will people recognize that the very argument against abortion is an even larger argument against the God people claim is so powerful?

If abortion is wrong, and it’s a sin, based on the idea that two people disobeyed God by eating the wrong fruit in a garden 6,000 to 10,000 years ago — and that the women who have one, or the doctors that perform them or the men who support women’s decisions and rights are so evil based on inherited sins (from fucking DISOBEDIENCE!!!) — then let God’s AWESOME, POWERFUL, WONDERFUL, PERFECT, SUPERNATURAL GREATNESS stand on its own.

You who are without sin, cast the first stone.

You who are without temptation and premeditated sins to come, throw all the rocks you want.

The rest of you should reach out, open an ear, and be the best damn wretched soul that you can be. Support a woman, and her choice. And if that means you compromise, chalk one up to all the other times you compromised. Ask for forgiveness, and move on.

We have better things to talk about than whether or not a woman, given the myriad of situations she might have, needs to think abortion is the most evil procedure in the known universe.

Maybe after reading that love-based book you claim is so great, go read the lyrics for Amazing Grace again before opening your mouth in opposition to this topic again.

Kentucky Fried Movie: Astrological Report

I found this video posted over at regular-reader Biodork’s Freethought Blog (FtB). If you haven’t been following Bee to the Dee’s progress over at FtB, what are you waiting for?

I thought of Biodork over the weekend. Some of you might know that Biodork volunteers as an escort at a women’s health facility, that includes services like abortions. Her job is to help women pass from their vehicles to the front door without being completely accosted by protestors who regularly camp out in front of the building.

It’s a shame that such a volunteer is needed in this country, but I — for one — am proud of Biodork for doing it.

On Saturday, I was out looking for photo ops, and I drove past Planned Parenthood (LaSalle and Division) here in Chicago. When Tina and I usually pass there, I open my window and yell at the groups who are picketing out front. “Educate yourself on the facts!” I yell. “Go find another way to love your neighbors!” I scream.

You know, insults.

But Saturday, there was only one dude, with a sign about praying for pro-life. He was reading a book.

If I thought I could get away with stopping in the middle of the road, I would have slammed on my brakes, picked up my camera from the passenger seat and yelled, “Who loves abortions?” When he looked up, I would get his picture.

Oh the shock that would have been on his face! Oh, the joy I would have had on mine! Oh the pictures and the stories for the blog!

Hypotheticals are so boring. 

Next time!

Extreme pro-lifers, insults and you

Many of you know I am adopted. Over on Facebook, I’m friends with several members of my biological family, including my half brother and his wife, cousins, second cousins and uncles.

When you’re adopted, there’s a natural want — borderline need — to know where your biological components come from. And in my case, it’s a formidable reminder of how fortunate I am to have been adopted.

My biological family is fucking nuts. But that’s why I love them.

Every family is nuts.

How about an example!

One night, one uncle went on an anti-liberal tirade. He wrote, and I’m not exagerrating, “You have to be completely fucking stupid to vote democrat.”

I wrote back that I loved him, but I hope he doesn’t think I’m a complete idiot for the direction I voted.

He deleted me as his friend.

Lately, a cousin has erupted with pro-life diatribes. There was one yesterday that was longer than most books.

I won’t bore you with reposting the entire thing. But here are some snippets that may (or may not) get your ire up:

I AM PRO-LIFE. I am not afraid or intimidated to admit that or post it right here on FB. In today’s twisted society, somehow, being pro-choice is so widely accepted that it has just become the norm and being pro-life seems to label you as crazy, extreme, anti-woman, and old fashioned, among other things. My reason for being pro-life is simple, I don’t support the act of killing unborn children. I don’t think that’s crazy or extreme. To me, life begins at conception and a child’s LIFE far outweighs a woman’s choice. That doesn’t make me anti-woman or old fashioned. In my belief, it’s rather reasonable.

And a 1000 words later:

Planned Parenthood is a monster abortion factory- NOT a significant primary care provider. Sure, it provides services for low income people, but there are plenty of Federally Qualified Health Centers that do the same and DO NOT perform abortions. Planned Parenthood MUST be exposed as the lying and terribly misleading organization that it truly is. We as women deserve better than Planned Parenthood and we should all be applauding and standing behind the Susan G. Komen foundation for cutting ties with this heinous group.

One woman responded in opposition to her. My cousin didn’t like that. The woman responded with recommendations of how to get involved through adoption/fostering children and several other ideas. Here is part of the response:

If you are so set in your PRO-LIFE views, you should spend less time preaching it and more time taking part of the movement i.e working at an adoption agency, being a foster parent to a child, or maybe even working for a fundraising source reputable to yourself- Susan G. Komen. This will be the last post I put up regarding this, and I’d like to think we can just agree to disagree!

I liked both of this woman’s responses. I got a note from my cousin this morning that said:

It’s rude of you to “like” a comment from a girl who’s essentially attacking me. Granted, we have opposing opinions, as do you and I, but that comment that you “liked” was no longer about our views. There, she made it a personal issue and I’m insulted that you would do such a thing.

Isn’t that the way of the passionate? Every and any voice of opposition is “an attack.”

I do it. You do it. Well, not you, but the dude behind you giving you bunny ears.

Keep in mind, my cousin is non-college graduate, young woman, married to a well-to-do dentist who comes from money. She has two beautiful children and lives in a multiple story home on a hill somewhere in the woods. She oozes opportunity and may be the poster child of the fortunate idiots who rage against something without so much as a finger near the pulse of reality — people I like to call “Mitt Romneys” and “Barack Obamas”.


Abortion Schmetortion. 

We’ve discussed abortion on this blog before. And I am for life, but also for choice. Which — to call a spade a spade — makes me pro-choice. I find pro-life an extreme stance that misunderstands abortion to the Nth.

I don’t think you should draw Hitler mustaches on women who come to the hard, awful decision that they should end a pregnancy. Nor should you draw those mustaches on the organizations, doctors or people who support them.

Another cousin of mine worked for Planned Parenthood for years. I’ve had friends and girlfriends who have used their services for birth control and other health services. From my point of view after speaking to these fine, reasonable people, I concluded that Planned Parenthood is not an abortion factory.

There are a lot of other reasons why Planned Parenthood and women’s health services are a vital resources in our communities. If you promote giving life to a baby who will experience pain, hunger, abuse, drug addiction, violence of any kind, you are a monster for opposing abortion or reasonably-priced family planning for the sake of a baby who will experience something much worse than death … which is a life of hell.

Let’s bring this conversation into my bedroom

Since even before we married, Tina and I have been trying to get pregnant. For at least five years, we’ve had sex to make a baby. And with every period, comes more heartache, tears, and turmoil than I care to rehash right now.

With every period, at least one of Tina’s eggs is flushed down the toilet. Over five years, that’s over 60 naturally aborted children.

If you’re against abortion, you should be against God, because — should he exist — he is the most heinous abortionist ever.

From my perspective, if you are pro-God, you are essentially anti-children. Because nature is not kind to babies, and it is thanks to science and progress that successful birthrate in 1st world countries has become nothing short of awesome.

Left to natural, God-ordained, natural situations — if you will — a high percentage of babies don’t have a fighting chance at life.

God had eons to get it right in nature. Science brought it only within the last few decades in some views.

That’s why science is winning and God needs to go by the wayside.

Disagree with me? Tell me. Agree with me? Let me know … it’ll feel so good to be validated. 🙂

Below the fold, I’m posting the response I wrote to my cousin (for my record), but feel free to read.

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