Another abortion discussion

Yesterday, I got an email from someone asking me to take a look at this article spotted in a Glenn Beck newsletter “The Blaze“. The person admitted that he knows I don’t like Glenn Beck, but to take a look anyway at the article about adoption.

I scanned the newsletter and found the headline that read:

“I Love Abortion” : Pro-Choice Activist Argues Against Adoption

Wow, right! Someone “loves” abortion? Pro-Choice Activist Argues Against Adoption? Wow wow wow.

That’s some brazen language. Imagine if you were a conservative and you saw that, you’d be enraged!

So I read what the newsletter wrote:

LifeNews has uncovered a real doozy when it comes to abortion rights activism. On a website titled “RH Reality Check” (with the “RH” standing for “Reproductive Health”), progressive writer Jessica delBalzo has a headline that is sure to bring precisely zero surprise to many pro-life activists, but may also scandalize moderate pro-choicers. The headline reads, “I Love Abortion: Implying Otherwise Accomplishes Nothing for Womens’ Rights.”

Whoa! Jessica delBalzo is a jerk! Right?

To the Blaze’s credit, it includes three paragraphs of the whole thing and links to the piece. You can read it here.

So I read delBalzo’s ovum-powered piece and ended up agreeing with the premise. The idea she conveyed to me was that she’s had enough of the pejorative language about abortion, and that she’s going to go so far as to say she loves abortion for the sheer fact that women who make that choice stop the feelings of guilt and shame that religious people attach to this procedure.

The other thing about the article is that there’s not one mention of adoption. Not one. She doesn’t make a case for or against it.

I wrote a long email back to the person who sent me this article, and I attempted as much as I could to avoid sounding like a Hitler piece of shit. I’m not going to bore you with the entire thing.

I’m not for abortion, but I’m for those rights.

Man, this topic is tough.


Then I stubbed my toe on the response I was looking for

Can we agree that the majority of those who hate abortion are religious? Most of them qualify as evangelical Christians. These same people believe that their God is the all-powerful, creator of the Universe. This is just a portion of what I wrote in my email response:

[I]f God is in control — as you’re sure He is — than this issue isn’t up to you. Not me. It’s between a woman and God. No more. No less.

Just like everything that you consider a sin is between you and God.

For me, my sins are between the person, people, or whomever I’ve sinned against. And I do not tolerate people who shove my sins in my face, as I do a handy dandy job of raking myself and my sins through the coals on my own. You may empathize with that.

Life is too short for this shit.

I love you. I love that you’re passionate. And I hope that we can either agree to disagree on this one or maybe you’ll agree that it’s not up to us.

Should God be all powerful, I believe God has every right to shut abortion down — on his own — in his own way. Let Him be in command. Practice what you preach.

Humanity doesn’t have to take every issue they think their God wants — based on no biblical passage — and make it so.

Why does God need humans — with all their flaws and sinful ways — telling other people what is and what isn’t right. God should have every opportunity to make his point known, and yet he’s unusually quiet on this subject.

Lost faith and using the trump card

Delivering this email helped me remember why it is I lost faith. It also allowed me to use the faith-based trump card in reverse. How often have Christians shut down a conversation because they drop God into conversation to give them the upper hand?

The church taught me that God is ALL POWERFUL. He’s wonderful. He’s a counselor. He’s a mighty God. Perfect. Just.

I’ve written often that God’s book had every opportunity to cover the issues that are fought over today, slavery, abortion, homosexuality, marriage etc. And except for homosexuality, God didn’t practice any foresight when addressing those issues, which — we argue — renders the homosexual issue obsolete as well. God also had a brilliant opportunity to teach humanity about germs, instead of demons, but he didn’t. I call that a failure of following through on all the things church leadership taught me.

If God is truly all-powerful, religious intervention is superfluous. If God is so wonderful and just, let Him take control. Let Him show the way. If He hated abortion, let him shut it down.

In the meantime, dear Christian readers, add this to the list of hypocrisies that make Christianity appear unsavory, unwelcoming, and petty.

When will people recognize that the very argument against abortion is an even larger argument against the God people claim is so powerful?

If abortion is wrong, and it’s a sin, based on the idea that two people disobeyed God by eating the wrong fruit in a garden 6,000 to 10,000 years ago — and that the women who have one, or the doctors that perform them or the men who support women’s decisions and rights are so evil based on inherited sins (from fucking DISOBEDIENCE!!!) — then let God’s AWESOME, POWERFUL, WONDERFUL, PERFECT, SUPERNATURAL GREATNESS stand on its own.

You who are without sin, cast the first stone.

You who are without temptation and premeditated sins to come, throw all the rocks you want.

The rest of you should reach out, open an ear, and be the best damn wretched soul that you can be. Support a woman, and her choice. And if that means you compromise, chalk one up to all the other times you compromised. Ask for forgiveness, and move on.

We have better things to talk about than whether or not a woman, given the myriad of situations she might have, needs to think abortion is the most evil procedure in the known universe.

Maybe after reading that love-based book you claim is so great, go read the lyrics for Amazing Grace again before opening your mouth in opposition to this topic again.

Extreme pro-lifers, insults and you

Many of you know I am adopted. Over on Facebook, I’m friends with several members of my biological family, including my half brother and his wife, cousins, second cousins and uncles.

When you’re adopted, there’s a natural want — borderline need — to know where your biological components come from. And in my case, it’s a formidable reminder of how fortunate I am to have been adopted.

My biological family is fucking nuts. But that’s why I love them.

Every family is nuts.

How about an example!

One night, one uncle went on an anti-liberal tirade. He wrote, and I’m not exagerrating, “You have to be completely fucking stupid to vote democrat.”

I wrote back that I loved him, but I hope he doesn’t think I’m a complete idiot for the direction I voted.

He deleted me as his friend.

Lately, a cousin has erupted with pro-life diatribes. There was one yesterday that was longer than most books.

I won’t bore you with reposting the entire thing. But here are some snippets that may (or may not) get your ire up:

I AM PRO-LIFE. I am not afraid or intimidated to admit that or post it right here on FB. In today’s twisted society, somehow, being pro-choice is so widely accepted that it has just become the norm and being pro-life seems to label you as crazy, extreme, anti-woman, and old fashioned, among other things. My reason for being pro-life is simple, I don’t support the act of killing unborn children. I don’t think that’s crazy or extreme. To me, life begins at conception and a child’s LIFE far outweighs a woman’s choice. That doesn’t make me anti-woman or old fashioned. In my belief, it’s rather reasonable.

And a 1000 words later:

Planned Parenthood is a monster abortion factory- NOT a significant primary care provider. Sure, it provides services for low income people, but there are plenty of Federally Qualified Health Centers that do the same and DO NOT perform abortions. Planned Parenthood MUST be exposed as the lying and terribly misleading organization that it truly is. We as women deserve better than Planned Parenthood and we should all be applauding and standing behind the Susan G. Komen foundation for cutting ties with this heinous group.

One woman responded in opposition to her. My cousin didn’t like that. The woman responded with recommendations of how to get involved through adoption/fostering children and several other ideas. Here is part of the response:

If you are so set in your PRO-LIFE views, you should spend less time preaching it and more time taking part of the movement i.e working at an adoption agency, being a foster parent to a child, or maybe even working for a fundraising source reputable to yourself- Susan G. Komen. This will be the last post I put up regarding this, and I’d like to think we can just agree to disagree!

I liked both of this woman’s responses. I got a note from my cousin this morning that said:

It’s rude of you to “like” a comment from a girl who’s essentially attacking me. Granted, we have opposing opinions, as do you and I, but that comment that you “liked” was no longer about our views. There, she made it a personal issue and I’m insulted that you would do such a thing.

Isn’t that the way of the passionate? Every and any voice of opposition is “an attack.”

I do it. You do it. Well, not you, but the dude behind you giving you bunny ears.

Keep in mind, my cousin is non-college graduate, young woman, married to a well-to-do dentist who comes from money. She has two beautiful children and lives in a multiple story home on a hill somewhere in the woods. She oozes opportunity and may be the poster child of the fortunate idiots who rage against something without so much as a finger near the pulse of reality — people I like to call “Mitt Romneys” and “Barack Obamas”.


Abortion Schmetortion. 

We’ve discussed abortion on this blog before. And I am for life, but also for choice. Which — to call a spade a spade — makes me pro-choice. I find pro-life an extreme stance that misunderstands abortion to the Nth.

I don’t think you should draw Hitler mustaches on women who come to the hard, awful decision that they should end a pregnancy. Nor should you draw those mustaches on the organizations, doctors or people who support them.

Another cousin of mine worked for Planned Parenthood for years. I’ve had friends and girlfriends who have used their services for birth control and other health services. From my point of view after speaking to these fine, reasonable people, I concluded that Planned Parenthood is not an abortion factory.

There are a lot of other reasons why Planned Parenthood and women’s health services are a vital resources in our communities. If you promote giving life to a baby who will experience pain, hunger, abuse, drug addiction, violence of any kind, you are a monster for opposing abortion or reasonably-priced family planning for the sake of a baby who will experience something much worse than death … which is a life of hell.

Let’s bring this conversation into my bedroom

Since even before we married, Tina and I have been trying to get pregnant. For at least five years, we’ve had sex to make a baby. And with every period, comes more heartache, tears, and turmoil than I care to rehash right now.

With every period, at least one of Tina’s eggs is flushed down the toilet. Over five years, that’s over 60 naturally aborted children.

If you’re against abortion, you should be against God, because — should he exist — he is the most heinous abortionist ever.

From my perspective, if you are pro-God, you are essentially anti-children. Because nature is not kind to babies, and it is thanks to science and progress that successful birthrate in 1st world countries has become nothing short of awesome.

Left to natural, God-ordained, natural situations — if you will — a high percentage of babies don’t have a fighting chance at life.

God had eons to get it right in nature. Science brought it only within the last few decades in some views.

That’s why science is winning and God needs to go by the wayside.

Disagree with me? Tell me. Agree with me? Let me know … it’ll feel so good to be validated. 🙂

Below the fold, I’m posting the response I wrote to my cousin (for my record), but feel free to read.

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